MARRIAGE SERVICES

At BMF we provide both Islamic and civil registration.

Background

Marriages are settled in Jannah and celebrated on earth. Marriage between a male and a female is the exclusive chosen way of Creator to ensure the continuity of human race. The importance of marriage in Islam is enormous. Marriage started in Jannah and shall continue in Jannah. In Islam, getting married is a religious duty and an act of worship, like other worships such as Salah and Zakat. Allah (SWT) ordered the believers to get married in more than 17 verses of the Qur’an.

Marriage between a man and a woman is mentioned 23 times in The Bible. In Judaism, marriage is viewed as a contractual bond commanded by God in which a man and a woman come together to create a relationship in which God is directly involved. (Deut. 24:1).

Because Marriage is an Ibadah, it must be performed as ordained by Allah (SWT) and as shown by our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) in his Sunnah.

 

Marriage is an Order of Allah

"Marry the single people from among you and the righteous slaves and slave-girls. If you are poor, Allah (SWT) will make you rich through His favour; and Allah (SWT) is Bountiful, All-Knowing." An-Noor 23.

“And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect.” Rum 21.

“O people! Fear your Lord Who created you from a single soul and made its mate from within it, and from that pair spread many men and women and fear Allah in Whose name you ask for (your rights) and pay attention to the ties of relationship. Undoubtedly. Allah is watching you all time.”Sura Al-Nisa 1.

Therefore, the objectives of marriage are:

1. To recognise Allah (SWT);
2. Have peace and tranquillity in family life;
3. Continue the human race;
4. To generate bond between the married man and the married lady and
5. To protect and support each other.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) stated:

 “O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to fast, as fasting is a protection for them.” Bukhari.

 

Historical background

All the prophets of Allah (SWT) got married in this world, except Prophet Isa (PBUH) who will get married on his return to this world before the Day of Judgement. The first to get married were prophet Adam (PBUH) and HazratHawa (PBUH) in the heaven.

Allah (SWT) stated: “And indeed We sent Messengers before you (Muhammad PBUH) and made for them wives and offspring.' Surah Ar-ra’ad 38.

"Four are from the Sunan of the Messengers: Al-Hayat (modesty), using Atar (Perfume), the Miswak, and Marriage." Tirmizi.

 

How to conduct marriage

The prophet (PBUH) stated:

“The most blessed marriage is the one which entails very little expenditure.”  Abu Dawood.

"Publicise this marriage, and hold it in the Masjid, and beat the Duff for it." Tirmizi.

“No woman should arrange the marriage of another woman (secretly), and no woman should arrange her own marriage (Secretly). The adulteress is the one who arranges her own marriage.” Ibn Majah.

“The worst kind of food is that served at the wedding feast.” Muslim.

 

Who and when to marry?

The prophet (PBUH) stated:

"Spouses are chosen for four things: their wealth, their nobility, their beauty and their religious commitment. Obtain success by choosing the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust." An-Nassai.

"Abu Bakr and 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, proposed marriage to Fatimah but the Messenger of Allah said: 'She is young (She was around 18.)' Then 'Ali (he was around 24)  proposed marriage to her and he married her to him." Al-Nasai.

 

Consulting for marriage

The prophet (PBUH) stated:

"A previously married woman has more right to decide about herself (with regard to marriage) than her guardian, and a virgin should be asked for permission with regard to marriage, and her permission is her silence." Al-Nasai.

 

After the marriage

The prophet (PBUH) stated:

“Give a feast of Walimah even with a sheep.” Muslim.

“When any one of you is invited to a feast of Walimah, he should attend it.”

“The Walimah feast on the first day is an obligation, on the second day is a custom and on the third day is showing off.” Ibn Majah.

 

What if a person cannot get married?

 "And let those who cannot find someone to marry maintain chastity until Allah (SWT) makes them rich through His favours ..."An-Noor 33.

“O young people! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, and whoever is not able to marry, is recommended to fast, as fasting is a protection for them.” Bukhari.

 

Marriage will continue in Jannah

“Like this, we will marry the righteous men with fair-eyed pious maidens.” Dhukhan 54.

 

Why formalise the marriage?

In Islam love between man and woman can only be realized and expressed through an Islamic marriage.In order to develop a healthy avenue for the expression of love between a man and woman, and to provide security so that such a loving relationship can flourish, it is necessary to give it the protection of Shariah Law and Civil registration.